Sunday, May 22, 2011

Love You Parents. They Will Not Be Here Forever.

I don't think one knows how important their parents are until they themselves are parents. My Dad is my whole world and my Mom my inspiration. They have struggled to give my Brother and I everything and anything we ever needed or wanted. Even now when my car breaks down or I need food they are the first to pay the bills until I can pay them back. They gave me food, clothes, a home and love. And if I can be half that to my kids, I know I am amazing. Three Years ago a month and 1/2 after my wedding my dad fell into a coma. I got the phone call when I was on my way to work. I turned my car around and drove threw Boston traffic (which trust me takes FOREVER)never stopped my car and never stopped crying. I walked into my Dad's room and fell by his side and remained there for almost 4 weeks. Watched the news and told him all about it. When the Sox traded Manny his heart rate and breathing because crazy and I was yelled at by the nurse :) I spent almost a month away from my family only coming home to shower and sleep. Sleeping only minuets a night and tossing and turning the rest of that night. It was the worst 4 weeks of my life. My Daddy pulled threw it all and is now fine. He has bad days where he gets confused and his short term memory is sometimes compromised but all in all a healthy guy. Today I spent the day with my Dad and the kids. We all piled in my parents small kitchen and made dinner together. A nice hot chicken dinner! I believe if I wasn't there every day talking to him, making him listen to my voice he might not have survived. I missed my daughters chicken pox and first time pooping on the potty. She doesn't remember me missing it but my son he remembers me missing his first soccer goal. But when I talk to him about it he reminds me that Grandpy is my Dad and him and his sister were taken care of by Daddy and happy. That I did the right thing. So tonight call your Mom's and Dad's and just ask how their day is. Tell them the weather or talk about sports. The little things can make a HUGE difference! It saved my Dad's life. Much Thoughts For All Denise <3

6 comments:

myevil3yearold said...

I did. My mom had a good day by the way. She planted my favorite flowers in her yard because they reminded her of me.

If I hadn;t called I might not have ever known that. Thanks.

Denise McD said...

Awww :) I am so glad you called her :) Spending the day with my dad today really hit me hard... for some reason I was just very grateful :) I wanted to share with everyone! I am glad it made you happy as well!!!!

Chelle said...

I second what you said. My mom is in ICU very sick. I talk to her about memories, what we're going to do when she wakes up and is better. There are no words to describe how it feels to sit by your parents' bedside, praying they make it through.
I have no doubt your talking to your dad was the best medicine for him. I'm glad he made it through.

Denise McD said...

@ Chelle I can totally say I know where you are coming from and I am so sorry to hear about your mom... If you need anyone to talk to let me know I will give you my personal email etc... It was the hardest time in my life especially since I am extremely close to my Dad it has always been me and my Daddy... I am so sorry you have to go threw this I hope you have family and friends to support you because if it wasn't for my husband and my best friend Evan I would have never got threw...

Chelle said...

Thank you so much. I have the support of my daughter, dad, and my friends. My mom's health has been bad for a few years and ICU is not new to us. But this time, her organs have started to shut down. That is new. She's holding her own at this point and there are some improvements. It's going to be a long road of waiting for things to get better. It's the waiting that's driving me crazy but we have faith she will be alright.

Denise McD said...

No need to thank me Chelle... I will be praying for you guys... Its amazing your will and power when faced in this situation... Thinking of you all!

 
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