Thursday, September 8, 2011

Childhood Dreams... Shattered...

I always joke that I live in a land of butterflies and rainbows, and honestly I think that is the best way to live sometimes but I do face reality.



As a kid I thought when I grew up I would save lives, own a hundred dogs, have loads of kids and eat ice cream whenever I wanted. Well saving lives didn't go so well because frankly the people in the ems field are cocky and that's not me, I own one dog which is enough for me, I have two kids and don't for see more and well my teeth hurt just thinking of ice cream.

As a kid you have many dreams. Being a princess or a rescue hero, living with mommy and daddy till your a grown up and eating ice cream every day. We all know that is not what growing up is but we can all embrace it in children. My children know the real world as well as "their" world. Alora dreams of one day marrying Harry Potter after she attends Hogwarts of course. Robert now that he is older has dreams more grown up, like becoming a senator.

I don't dear tell Alora that Harry Potter is not real or that her brother just was not accepted and is a "muggle." However I do say things like "Alora, Harry Potter Is much older then you and he might be married by then." or "Alora you might be a muggle to and not go to Hogwarts but that's ok because we all love you anyway." I feel like saying this is better then crushing their dreams at 4 and gets them ready to be crushed at say like 8.

I'm not sure I remember when Robert stopped being so child like. It makes me sad really. The good thing is he still has dreams. Dreams some I know probably won't happen but by no means just like when he was 4 I would crush. He wants to be a senator and I fully support it. I do however worry myself about the college bill. But I do keep him in check about it saying things like "well just remember it is my dream too and I will support you threw all 10 years of school."

It is my biggest pet peeve when kids are just thrown to the dogs. I know someone who never told their kids no and let them believe in everything not real. Well the poor oldest is now bullied every day and at the age of 12 doesn't understand his legos are not real. Yes bulling is not right but it happens every day in middle school. Anyway I find myself thinking if they handled their kids a little better in life would that child just have had all of his dreams shattered on the 2nd day of school?

I love being happy and embracing my children's love of life and dreams but in the same sense I don't want to set them up for disappointment.

What are your thoughts on this?
Much Thoughts For All Denise <3

17 comments:

sassyduck80 said...

this is so very true...I love reading your blog every time you post.

Denise McDonough said...

Aw thank you! I am so happy to hear you read them all :) I am a bit crazy :) lol I guess being with 5 kids all day makes you think really hard lol

Brandi, Leslie and Amanda said...

I don't know, when I grew up we were never taught to believe in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy or any of that kind of thing. We still enjoyed the lore of it all but we never thought it was real. I still feel like imagination was very encouraged in our home and I don't feel life was bleak or bitter at all. I do think you should find a happy medium that best fits your own children, because we are all different.

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Grandma Bonnie said...

I think its good to find a happy medium. I was was allowed to believe in Santa Clause and other fairy stories. I had a hard way to go and took it really hard to hear some truths from others and not my family. so I raise my children in the middle a little fantasy and lots of realism. New follower from the Sunday Funday hop. Hope you stop over for a visit. http://grandmabonniescloset.blogspot.com/

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coronaryrn said...

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