Tuesday, August 2, 2011

So I Was Just That Mom With "That Kid."

SO I have never had a problem bringing these kids anywhere to anything nothing. They love the pool, parks, stores and the library. Other then a few "Do we have to go?" "Why right now?" lines I have never had to deal with one of the 5 taking a full blown fit. Well, today it happened!
We dropped Laylay off at school hour in the library and the girls (Bean and Alora) went down stairs for music and book story time. Everything was going great! The girls were singing, dancing smiling just enjoying the whole thing (like last week.) All of a sudden Miss Alora-Sara decided that she wanted a drink. No you can not Alora-Sara we have 6 mins left. She ran away from me out the door. Ugh I was thinking. Got up, got her and brought her back with her laughing at me like I was a joke! I was so angry but I kept my cool. Second time she gets up and runs out. I get out there take her by the hand and BAMMMMMM...
Kicking, screaming, crying even spitting! I do NOT tolerate spitting! I was so angry, sad, upset, worried and embarrassed all at once!
I understand this happens on a daily basis with some parents, but this has never happened to me before? What do I do? I always ignored the families that had this problem because I feel like it is not my place to judge or as long as the child is safe worry. I still feel this way. However I am not to concealed in this snotty town. Purple hair, tattoos, fat and loud I am not "OK" here. So here I am with "that" kid. I stayed outside the room with her made her sit on the floor and wait for it to be over while she cried and kicked (Bean was still in there dancing away.) None of the children noticed this fit Alora was taking but bet your butt the other Moms did. Dirty looks, words and pointed fingers really got me angry. I was a big girl and just ignored. Bean came out and we headed upstairs to get Laylay who was still in class and Alora was still screaming.
I took all three girls walked out and put them in the car while listening to Bean and Laylay tell me their favorite part of library, all while Alora was screaming.
So did I do the right thing? Was I to harsh? Should the other Moms care? I believe I did do the right thing, I was not to harsh, and the other Moms should mind their perfect little business. Because I am sorry but your kids don't poop roses.





What do you do in this kind of situation!?

Much Thoughts For All Denise <3

9 comments:

Plum said...

My son was "that kid" yesterday, too. He's two, and decided to throw a fit while registering big sister for school. So, I let him lay there, got on my knees, told him we don't throw fits and mommy will not put up with it. Then I stepped over him and ignored him. He stopped pretty quick, but it is embarrassing!

Ron and Diana Pike said...

Who hasn't been in your shoes! Laugh it off....it only gets worse as they get older. but know that soon you will be as big an embarrasment to your kids as they once were to you....think of the possibilities!! Diana

Frankie said...

I believe you did exactly the right thing! You removed the little devil from the situation, so as not to spoil anyone else's good time. If you start to worry about what other people think, then I'll worry about you. As long as everyone keeps their hands to themselves, it shouldn't be a problem. At least you have a child who has heard the word NO, and understands what it means, even though she wasn't happy about it. There should be consequences, though, for the screaming fit that she took. The next time the other kids go for story hour, keep her in the car, but explain that it's because of her behavior today, and that the next time, she can participate too, but if she pulls another fit, the same thing will happen: removal from the day's outing, and denial of the fun the next time out.

Denise McDonough said...

Oh I was laughing the entire time! more because I couldnt believe it... I mean I have seen it before and always said i would do what i did if that ever happened... and frankly this town is ridicules! One woman called me a sinner to her 4 year old because I had tattoos lol But when we went upstairs to get Laylay there was 10 mins were usually bean and alora play well bean played NOT Alora she cried the whole time... I dont care to bad for her! But I am now the mean mom in "Duluxbury..."

Denise McDonough said...

Plum I applaude you! that is just what I would have done! Its nice to know I am not the only mom who feels this way!
Ans Diana I cant wait for that day :) lol

Yes! Yolanda said...

A sinner for tattoos? Isn't it a sin to pass judgement? Lol! Unlike you- I have been in this situation quite a few times. Not because my kid is a brat, but because my husband used to work nights & we would often do things a strange hours. Which of course also resulted in a super crabby kid at times. It sucks. Even the best of kids do it & even the SAINTLIEST of Mothers get p.o'ed about it. I never really know what to do when it happens. Yelling is fuel to the fire & just observing looks bad too. I would have done exactly what you did & take her out of the situation. Other than that- she would be in a "no playing" time out for whatever fun activities were to follow in that day. Small towns can be a big bummer sometimes.

Denise McDonough said...

Oh Yolanda I agree! I hate parents that say they are perfect their kids are perfect bla bla bla my kids are by far perfect I just honestly have never encountered a problem like this I mean all 5 kids have never had a choice they were always brought and made to go everywhere so I think that might help but Alora hasnt been sleeping very good and finally today I guess it got her... Anyway I had her like i said apologize to the librarian and then she wasnt allowed to play she learned pretty fast so she was good for the rest of the day we will have to see next week how it goes lol... And yes Sometimes small towns can be a bummer I live very close to the city and I am a very young mom I get that but no one in this town has a problem and my sons school has taken such good care of us and my daughters school well we have been attending that preschool for 8 years now so after beign threw all the kids they know me very well the family I nanny for just moved to this very snobby town last summer and it has all been down hill I mean I love the kids and my bosses but yea everyone else suuuuuuuuuuu*** its pretty bad I should post about it all it would make everyone laugh lol...

Debbie said...

You did the right thing :) I remember times when I had to leave an entire grocery cart full of groceries in the middle of an aisle and walk out of the store with a screaming kicking child, while everyone stopped and stared. I was horrified the first time it happened, but after that would just smile and wave at those that were staring. It only took a few removals for her to realize it wasn't going to be tolerated.

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